12 MINUTES · A GUIDED REFLECTION
The relationship you want to be in
Understand your needs, patterns, and room for honest conversation.
WHAT YOU MIGHT LEAVE WITH
One clear need, one boundary, and a conversation you could choose to have.
When do you feel most yourself in this relationship?
Notice concrete moments of care, ease, mutual interest, or repair.
When do you feel smaller, guarded, or alone?
Describe behavior rather than diagnosing either person. If you feel unsafe, prioritize support and safety.
What do you need, and what is a preference?
Separate essentials such as respect and safety from negotiable differences.
What have you communicated, and what response have you seen?
Consider actions over time. You do not need to take responsibility for another person’s choices.
What next step would respect both your agency and your needs?
That may be a conversation, a boundary, space, or support from a trusted person.
Read here or reflect with pen and paper. In the app, you can write, draw, and discuss what you notice.